Dear Steve and Shirley, I married a man with four children, all under age fifteen, and they live with us two weeks a month. I have a five-year-old, and I have sole custody because my ex-husband works in England. I’m biracial, and I grew up with my white mom, who spoke softly and allowed me to express my feelings and do what I wanted within reason. As I grew up, I saw that I needed discipline, so I decided that I would not be as lenient when I had children of my own. So here I am, newly married t